What do you see when you look at your spouse?
Is it good? Do you see positive qualities? Or have you developed a habit of finding faults? Fault finding quickly leads us into strife and division. The picture of our life and marriage will be determined by what we focus on.
Philippians 4:8 NIV – Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
The amplified version of this verse ends with “…center your mind on them and implant them in your heart.”
When you focus on the good, the good gets better.
For my wife’s last birthday, I wanted to do something meaningful. I wrote out 50 reasons why I love her. I decided to place them in areas where I pray so that I can reflect on them more. As I focus on the things I love about her, I know it will help bring out the best in her.
I have found that when I focus on the good, it changes my attitude and perspective. It adds value to my life, in my home and at work. Like a camera lens – a few adjustments to the focus creates a new perspective. Do you need a new perspective?
This week I challenge you to intentionally choose to focus on the good in your spouse. Watch and see how it changes the whole atmosphere. Your good perspective will influence everyone around you – try it!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.